5 reasons why a man doesn't want sex?
What kind of illogical creatures are we women? It is quite natural for us to refuse a man intimacy, but when we receive a refusal, it sounds like an insult and has a bad subtext. Not wanting to understand the reasons, we stick offensive labels on our faithful and waste our self-esteem. But it would be worthwhile to figure out why a man does not want sex?
Until recently, it was believed that men, like dogs, only think about sex. And women just keep avoiding their marital duties, inventing various reasons from critical days to headaches. Today, the emphasis has shifted. And men are increasingly refusing intimacy. According to statistics, 62% men refuse sex more often than their life partners, and 42% make love only once every two weeks. Such data were obtained during a sociological survey in Britain. But sexual dissatisfaction can lead to divorce. What's the matter?
Reason 1: Workaholics are not sexaholics
Busy work schedule, stress, overwork are definitely our enemies in any area of life. It is because of them that we do not have enough energy and time for friends, children and even sex. And why do you think that men are an exception? Overwork and stress affect them too. And if your man is not just a hired worker, but the owner of his own business... In this case, work means a lot to him, and it takes a lot of energy. This is his brainchild and he is responsible for people, even if it is a small business. Therefore, any work crisis - and thoughts about everything fade into the background. What kind of sex is there when the work of his life can go down the drain? Here, bed scenes will not help you relax, even buy beautiful underwear and dance a striptease. And if work troubles and stresses in his life happen regularly, like the daily crowing of roosters with the sunrise, then sooner or later the nervous system of even a very strong man will not withstand and will collapse under the weight of problems. Then the nervous breakdown will have to be treated in a hospital, and not with a "nurse" in his own bed.
Exit: If the decrease in sexual desire is associated with daily workload and persistent stress, then the best way to improve your personal life, and also restore strength and health is go on vacation! The recipe for a good vacation is simple - leave all your business at home, laptops and other means of communication with the outside world too. A mobile phone and a camera will be quite enough on a trip. The main thing is to pull your man out of the hectic nervous everyday life, the rest of the pleasures will follow. A change of scenery to a more romantic one relaxes perfectly and promotes sexual experiments. Show your imagination and be more patient.
Reason 2: Diseases interfere with sex
You may be surprised, but based on sociological research, one of the most common reasons for decreased sexual desire in men in Europe is taking antidepressants. It turns out that the powers that be, feeling the daily pressure of everyday life, are trying to escape from stress with the help of drugs. And these ways to escape depression and lead them straight to problems in the sexual sphere. One is treated - another is crippled. In addition, according to statistics, most hormonal disorders and heart disease inevitably affect the reduction of a man's sexual activity.
Exit: Of course, illnesses need to be treated. And as we know, many men do not like to visit doctors and put them off until the very last minute. The disease may arise not in the heart, but below the belt. Therefore, if you suspect something is wrong, and the man is in no hurry to complain about his health - make an appointment with a doctor yourself. And drag, drag, drag to the appointment!
Reason 3: Technology Ruins Sex
Laptops and computers, TVs, tablets and phones, game consoles and other wonders of modern technology are real wasters of free time today. You sit down to check your email for 5 minutes – an hour flies by. If your man can’t stop checking his email or reading news on social networks, it means he has become truly addicted to his gadget and simply forgets that he needs to devote time to other areas of life. And when he tears his head away from the screen at night, it’s understandable that he already wants to sleep. “Tomorrow, tomorrow, darling,” he whispers tiredly. And tomorrow it all repeats itself.
Exit: agree that each of you has only one hour in the evening for all sorts of Internet activities. And make some days of the week free from technical excesses. You will see how much time such an "online diet" can give you. And you probably know how to spend it. Update your bed linen, put on satin sheets, wrap yourself in a blanket together and heal from the gray everyday life vivid sexual fantasies.
Reason 4: It's you
Yes, the reason why a man is reluctant to go to bed, stays late at work and does not seek intimacy may be hidden closer than you thought. Moreover, the reason for his “reluctance” may be both excessive sexual activity on the part of the woman and her indifference. The lack of spiritual closeness, trust and mutual understanding for a man, as well as for a woman, is the reason for refusing intimacy. In this case, before solving problems of a sexual nature, it is necessary to sort out the relationship. Do you think that quarrels and heated showdowns only fuel passion in sex? But your man, perhaps, sees everything differently. Constantly "nag" your husband - then do not be surprised if he ever tells you a decisive "no". And also constant care, oddly enough, can also greatly spoil the bed relationship. If you constantly ask "have you put on your hat, my little bear", then sooner or later you will turn into the mother of this bear. And if this bear is a sane man, then he does not need a second mother, especially in his own bed.
Exit: Forget about extremes – don’t save up your sexual energy for the weekend, March 8th or Bastille Day, but forcing your loved one to crawl under the covers every night is also not the best idea. If a man quickly gets bored with daily sex, then he will quickly get used to refusals and will stop perceiving you as an object of his desire. So let’s go in search of the golden mean, and the most important thing here is not to develop a specific schedule of these “physical workouts”, but to create maximum conditions for intimacy to be passionate and not a routine duty. With the nurse syndrome, everything is generally simpler – work on yourself, stop doing all sorts of minor duties for your man, believing that he can ruin everything. Let him ruin it, do it wrong 10 times, on the 11th – he will become a professional in any matter. If by the age of 30-40 no one has brought up a man in him, then it’s time to let him grow up on his own, and not cultivate this boyish impotence.
Reason 5 – There is sex, but not here
The reason is a bit similar to its predecessor, only in a neglected form. In childhood, all boys, having played enough with their favorite car (airplane, dump truck, scooter...), quickly changed the object of their recent passion for something more intriguing. Boys grow up, habits remain. If a man gets tired of having sex with one woman, then he changes her for another. Perhaps you do not get simple human pleasures for one simple reason - your man has another woman.
Exit: It is this reason that turns out to be the most difficult to eliminate.Beautiful lingerie, striptease and other attributes of a treacherous seductress wife will no longer give any effect here. The problems here are much deeper, so radical solutions are needed. If you don’t want to be in the background, don’t be afraid to decisively say goodbye to an outdated relationship in which even sex no longer lives. If you still accept such rules of the game, then you can safelyget yourself a lover. And not even for the sake of revenge, but for the sake of your beloved self, your physical and mental health. Then your self-esteem will remain intact, and a good mood is guaranteed!
I wish that neither you nor your man ever have a headache. And if you do, treat it not with pills, but with an old proven method – passionate love scenes!
