HOW TO BREAK UP WITH A BOYFRIEND: 5 STEPS TO FREEDOM

Sometimes women want to know the "secret" of maintaining a relationship. But the most important question is not HOW, but WHY to maintain? If the discord in the relationship is temporary, if the relationship has recently started to "go bad", then you need to figure it out, analyze, try. But if it lasts a year, three years, or it is even difficult to remember yourself happy, then WHY?

For many, these relationships last for years. And such relationships bring nothing but constant stress, illnesses, and loss of interest in life.

What should you do? How should you break up? How do you do it right? How can you avoid offending someone you've had a close relationship with for some time? How can you get rid of guilt? Should you continue your friendship after a breakup? I'll answer all these questions. After listening to and putting my step-by-step recommendations into action, you'll be absolutely free!

So, let's get started! We'll take five steps to a proper breakup.

Step 1

Let's call this step "The big things are seen from a distance"
Love is gone... It can happen to anyone. You feel that the relationship has run its course and it is time to put an end to it. We women are emotional creatures by nature and it is difficult for us to make a decision with a cool head.

That's why I suggest separation for at least a week. No, you should never tell your loved one at this stage that you need to think about it and that's why you're leaving him! You do it for yourself, to calmly weigh everything and discuss it.

You need to try to choose a scenario for absence that is not extreme, but something “in your spirit,” so that your man is not too surprised and does not ask to go with you.

Step 2

The second step is – "Making the final decision" or "Pros and Cons of Breakup"It's time to evaluate and understand whether your intention is serious, do you really want to break up?

In a week of separation you will understand whether you miss him or, on the contrary, feel free and comfortable. Only in separation can you make the right decision and be objective. For this, not seeing each other for at least a week is a mandatory rule and condition.

In order for your temporary loneliness to be useful and constructive, you need to take several actions.

1. Take a piece of paper and write down all the positive traits, habits of your man on the right side and all the negative ones on the left. Which list is bigger? And sometimes it would be more correct to ask - which list is more significant in content? Still not completely sure - to break off relations or to improve?

2. Write 2 “on-duty” lists of Pros and Cons, which list the most general reasons why in one case you need to break up, and in the second case there is something to think about and you shouldn’t rush to destroy everything.

3. Well, if emotions overwhelm you so much that even temporary loneliness does not help you, and you are not able to think constructively, you are eaten up by resentment, you are angry, you are disappointed, then in this case there is a way out! I know how to get rid of negative emotions.

You can very emotionally, colorfully, without mincing words, speak out to your closest friend, mother or any other unfortunate person who comes your way. Or you can use a special technique called "Love Message". A wonderful thing, well and clearly explained. Easy to use and you don't need anything except silence, paper and a pen. I highly recommend it, I sometimes use it myself, and I always get a positive result.

Step 3

"Time Out in Relationships"
And now, having weighed and thought everything over, you are still afraid to make a final decision. And this is understandable and correct. Breaking is not building. You can take a time-out and suggest to your man to separate for some time. If you have real feelings and a lot in common, then distance and separation will put everything in its place.

But. Can you be sure that your man will respond adequately to your proposal, and not just make a rash decision, get offended, and leave you? And you will not be ready for this and will regret that you started all this at all.

There is another "slippery" moment. Will you agree on how you are going to live during this period? Is it possible to start new relationships, have sex on the side? And if yes, will you be able to not constantly think about who and where he is now? After all, if you admit that you can do this, then you must admit that your man can do the same.

There are 2 options:

1. Agree on certain rules of conduct and try to follow them.

2. Let things slide and come what may! But in this case, you need to be lenient and, after the time-out has passed, consider that this time did not exist, and do not accuse the man of all mortal sins, since the offer to “live separately” came from you.

I can only suggest options, but you will have to decide, no matter how much you want the situation to resolve itself.

Step 4

"Breakup Negotiation Plan"
So, after careful analysis, weighing the pros and cons, time-out, the decision to end the relationship has finally been made. The hardest part remains, to survive the day and hour when you tell the man about your decision. How to do it correctly, prepare?

First of all, what to do with the feeling of guilt? Especially if you were once dumped, and you felt on your own skin, not from someone's words, how offensive, painful and scary it was. Your conscience torments you, you do not want to offend the person, he does not deserve such an attitude, etc., etc.

Stop!
Yes, there will be a day, a week, a month, or even more, when things will be difficult for a man and he will have to endure it.

But!
Think about the huge favor you are doing this man. If you think he deserves the love and respect you can no longer give him, then give him the freedom to find a woman who will give it to him!

You treat him fairly and with dignity!
You are doing the right thing.
The conversation itself needs to be prepared. It is best to write a plan or theses, and even better to "work it out" on a person you trust. The first words in your farewell speech should be words of gratitude for all the good things that happened between you.

Next, you need to say that you are ending the relationship and give reasons WHY. Respecting the man you are breaking up with, do not leave him without an answer to this question. But under no circumstances read out a long list of accusations with reproaches and recalling all his mistakes. 1-2 compelling and main reasons that led to the decision to end the relationship will be enough.

Step 5

Step five: "Don't give up! There is no turning back!"
So the conversation took place. You are great, you did everything right! But your man is not going to put up with this state of affairs and starts to act. He realized what he could lose, he is too used to you, he gets a lot from you and is not ready to lose it all in one go.

And he starts giving gifts, calling and declaring his love, promising to fix everything, etc. And your fortress is ready to collapse, there are thoughts of “understanding and forgiving”, and “starting all over again”.

STOP!

Don't do this. All these words, promises and attempts to get you back are his unwillingness to lose what he is used to and his hurt male pride. As soon as you agree to his persuasion and say "Yes", everything will gradually return to normal and be as it was.
Be strong as a rock! Don't lose your temper!

There are many examples in practice when women, having succumbed to male persuasion, pressure, feelings of pity, returned. At first - for a week, a month at most - their faithful was silky, but then, since he is not a robot, not a professional actor, he took off this happy mask.

Therefore, if you have made a firm decision in the first three stages and justified it for yourself, and the reasons why you are breaking up are very serious, then do not turn back halfway.

I didn't promise you that it would be easy. I promised the result - a dignified, correct separation. And not only the man will worry about what happened, but you are not made of stone either. Time must pass.

Afterword

Well, these are probably all the actions that, if performed (correctly performed), will lead you to the desired freedom. Of course, 100%, strict, word-for-word performance is impossible. But this is a kind of algorithm, a plan, a set of rules that you can rely on. Life and circumstances will make their own adjustments. But the more similar your actions are to those I suggest, the more correct your separation will be and the better your well-being will be after it.

Now you have a ready-made, step-by-step plan for breaking up. All that's left is to take all of this into service and start acting!

I wish you luck! Whether you decide to break up or, having gone to a sanatorium and written a Love letter, “cool down” and understand that your man is not so bad – the choice is yours. But I know for sure, “We came into this world to be happy. Do not deny yourself this!”

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