Never waste your time and energy on those who don't care about you.
Andrey Kurpatov, a psychotherapist, writer, and active columnist for many publications, has defined golden rules of life for himself.
We suggests taking a closer look at them: perhaps they will suit you too.
- Never shift responsibility for what happens in your life onto other people's shoulders.
I understand that the temptation is great, but have pity on yourself. Only at that moment when you internally accept this decision - "I am the author of my failures and the creator of my successes", you will gain strength. - Accept the fact that the past can no longer be changed, it is over.
We have control over only our future, which directly depends on what we do now, at each given, specific minute. Don't wait for the future to smile at you - make it so that it can't help but smile at you. - Get rid of the illusion that you can change other people.
Subconsciously, we all suffer from this naive delusion, and as a result, we suffer in the truest sense of the word. People are changed only by circumstances, everything else is just a deception of perception. Let them be different, and at some point you will even begin to enjoy it. - Others need us to be strong.
Weak, tired, suffering, unhappy - no one needs us. If they pretend that things are different, they are simply misleading you. Don't give in! Agree with the absoluteness of this rule, breathe out, shake yourself, and you will understand that there is nothing to be upset about. - All our actions will have certain consequences.
And, in essence, we always choose not what we will do, but what will happen as a result of this action of ours. Therefore, before doing something stupid, think carefully about its consequences, and then there will be significantly less stupidity in your life. - Don't live as if you will live forever.
Each of us will die. This is inevitable and a medical fact. You can suffer and be tormented by this, or you can make an effort and leave this topic once and for all. Do not live as if you will live forever. And do not live as if you will die tomorrow. Consider both of these statements, and you will find your own recipe for a happy life. - Do what you feel is important inside.
If you're wondering about the meaning of life, it's probably just depression. It's not the specific "meaning of life" that's important, but the feeling that you're living a meaningful life. Do what you feel is important inside. Don't forget to tell yourself that. And don't chase success. If you just do what you feel is important, success will catch up with you. - Never waste your time and energy on those who don't care about you or, even worse, those who don't love you.
There are many people in this world with whom it is a joy to live life. You just don’t have to be closed and suspicious. Believe me, being open and kind, you don’t lose anything.
