What do women want?

Men, I'll share a little secret with you.
A woman - any woman - has only three needs. If you think that these are an apartment, a car and a fur coat - then you are mistaken. Everything is much simpler and more accessible.

Ruslan Narushevich calls these needs “Three B’s”:

Intimacy
Gratitude
Safety

Intimacy

We women are very, very social and dependent on communication. We don't understand why you go underground or go fishing. Because it's more natural for us to get together with friends and communicate.
Everything we do in life ultimately has one goal - to feel close to other people. We really enjoy heart-to-heart talks with girlfriends, movies about intimacy and love.

And we also really want to feel you, to know what's in your heart. We call you and ask: "Where are you?" several times a day. Not to control. But just to hear what you think about us. At least sometimes.

We experience negative emotions by talking about them. That's why when we see you in a difficult state, we want to get you to talk (even though you want to be alone at that time). And when we have a hard time, we want you to talk to us. It's not easy, especially for you. After all, we have everything together - feelings, thoughts, and events. But if you remember that we just need to talk it out and cry on your shoulder - maybe it will be easier for you.

We don't want advice, recipes, or summaries. We just want you to listen to us, hug us, and say: "My little one, this is probably very difficult for you right now. But I'm with you. And I love you."

Yes, we want to hear all the time that you love us. For you it is silly, but for us it is necessary as air. We want to understand that today we are as close to you as yesterday. That you still love us.

Gratitude

We, like you, want to feel valuable and needed. It is important for us to understand that you accept every cooked dinner with gratitude. That you value every clean shirt in your closet. That our beauty and grooming are important to you.

We love compliments. Madly. Because with their help we feel that you love us. That you are grateful to us and close to us. At the same time, it is very important for us that your compliments are varied, aimed at our qualities and are sincere.

For example, I am not very pleased when my husband says that breakfast is great. After all, he is great, and what does that have to do with me? And I can even be a little offended - after all, he did not prepare it himself. But if my husband says that I am the best cook in the world, then I melt.

Yes, we are capable of melting from one word from you. It is strange and stupid, but that is all of us, women.

Safety

We are incredibly vulnerable and sensitive. Even if we build thick walls and shells on the outside, there is always a fragile little girl inside us. And we really want to be taken care of.

Sometimes we look like armored tanks from the outside, and you think that we don’t need your care. But without it, we lose our femininity and beauty. More than anything in the world, we dream of being taken care of.

We think it's easy - to offer a hand when getting off the bus, to hold the door, to help with heavy bags, to meet us late at night from work, to listen to us in difficult times. Perhaps for you it really is difficult - especially the last one. But we like it. For such care, we are ready to inspire you and idolize you.

We want even more to stop working from dawn to dusk and start creating at home. To create harmony, love, atmosphere there. We want to be with our children, cook you mind-blowing dinners, buy new curtains for your home. This is our nature - we want to create and be women.

And you may think that not every woman wants that. But look into her eyes and deep inside you will see this little girl who loves to create the world around her.

For a man who will allow us to create and not work, we are ready to give everything without a trace. Such is our nature - to give.

We put a slightly different meaning into words.

When we apologize, we want to say that we care about your feelings. That we care. And when you say "I'm sorry," you usually mean "I won't do it again." And that's why it's so hard for you to apologize, but it's much easier for us. Because we always care.

Our "left" is, most often, your "right".

When we ask you for a bouquet of flowers or a fur coat, we just want to feel that we are still important to you. And that is why the gifts that are most precious to us are those that contain love. For example, crafts made by children from kindergarten.

When we ask you if you want to eat, we mean that we are hungry ourselves. And it would be great to eat now.

When we tell you that we are tired, it means that we are asking you for help. Even if the request is not made directly.

The female nature is so strangely arranged, there is much that is illogical and incomprehensible in us. But this is precisely why you love us. Because we are Women. And it is we who can melt your heart with our smile. It is we who illuminate the whole house with rays of love and create warmth in it. It is us you seek out to share your achievements and experience joy and pride with us.

We love you and need you.

We do not always know how to remain women in difficult moments. We can be irritable, capricious. We depend on the phases of the moon, women's cycles, the mood of others. We are changeable and unpredictable. And sometimes it is difficult and even unbearable to be around us.

We're sorry about that. We care about how you feel. We just need - we need again - your strong manly shoulder, on which we can let our inner girl come out into the world.

And the most important thing is that we love you. And we can’t imagine our life without you. You are as necessary to us as air and light. Only next to you can we fully open up as Women.