By using these tips you will gain happiness and wealth.

1. What happened, happened.

A famous saying of Buddha is, “It is your resistance to what has happened, to what already is, that is the cause of your suffering.” Think about that for a minute. It means that we suffer when we resist the situation and the reality of things. If you can change something, then take action! Change it! But if you can’t change it, then you have two options: (1) accept it and let go of all the negativity, or (2) immerse yourself in your own suffering.

2. A situation becomes a problem when you begin to perceive it as a problem.

More often than not, we are our own worst enemy. Whether you feel happy or unhappy depends only on your attitude. If you think that the situation is really a problem, then your thoughts and emotions will be negative. But if you think that the situation is just a lesson for you to learn from, then what kind of problem is it?

3. If you want to change something, you need to start by changing yourself.

Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don't you know people whose lives seem to be in constant chaos and stress? And isn't it (in large part) because they feel chaotic and stressed inside, too? Yes, that's right. We like to think that if our circumstances change, everything will change for us. In fact, it's the opposite: we must change ourselves before our circumstances change.

4. There is no such thing as failure or failure. There are only opportunities to learn.

You should simply remove the words “failure” or “setback” from your vocabulary. All great people who have achieved much in life have failed many times. Imagine Thomas Edison saying the following: “I didn’t fail when I invented the light bulb. I was just the first to find 99 reasons why it didn’t work.” Analyze your so-called “failures” and learn from them. Next time, you will do much better.

5. If you don't get what you want, it means something much better is on the way.

It's hard to believe. But it's true. If you look back on your life, you'll realize that if something didn't work out for you, it was for the best. Maybe the job you wanted but didn't get would have taken you away from your family, but now you have a great job with flexible hours. Just trust that everything is happening the way it should.

6. Appreciate the present moment.

This moment will never come again. And in every moment there is always something valuable. Don't let it pass you by! Soon it will be just a memory. Even those moments that you were not happy about can be remembered with a hint of nostalgia over time.

7. Let go of your desires.

Most people live with certain “anchors”. This means that they are firmly attached to some desire of theirs, and when they do not get it, they become upset and depressed. Instead, try to unhook such an “anchor” in practice. In other words, even if you want something, you will still be happy regardless of whether you get it or not. Your emotions remain positive or neutral.

8. Understand the nature of your fears and be grateful for them.

Fear can be a great teacher, and overcoming it will make you feel like a winner. For example, one of the three main fears of all people is the fear of public speaking, however, many have overcome this fear through constant practice. Fear is just an illusion, which is quite possible to get rid of.

9. Allow yourself to experience joy.

It turns out that there are many people who do not allow themselves to rejoice and have fun. Moreover, they do not even know what it means to be happy. They are attached to their problems and troubles, constantly nurse and cherish disappointments inside themselves, they simply do not know how to live differently. Therefore, always allow yourself to be happy! Even if it is just a small moment in your life. It is important to focus on joys, not on difficulties.

10. Don't compare yourself to other people.

If you are going to compare yourself to others, then compare yourself to people who are worse off than you. Be grateful that you have a well-paid job, for example. Others don't. Are you unhappy with your appearance? Well, most people don't look like movie stars in a staged photo shoot. And you probably look much better than other people. Focus on that.

11. You are not a victim.

You must walk your own path. You are simply a regular “victim” of your own thoughts, words, and actions. No one else is deliberately making you a victim. You are the creator of your own experience. Take personal responsibility and understand that you are fully capable of getting out of any difficult situation. You just need to start by changing your thoughts and actions. Give up the victim mentality and become a winner.

12. Everything can change. What's more, everything will actually change!

"This too shall pass." A brilliant saying in its wisdom. When we find ourselves in a disgusting situation, we often see no light, no way out. We believe that nothing will ever change. Not true! It will! Nothing lasts forever, except death. Throw out of your head the thought that everything will be bad now. It will not. However, you yourself need to take some action to influence reality and change it. It is unlikely that everything will magically change without your participation.

13. Anything is possible.

Miracles happen every day. It's a fact. People are cured of terminal cancer and find love when they least expect it. It happens all the time. You just have to believe it's happening. And when you do, you've won the battle.

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