10 HABITS OF HAPPY COUPLES
World-renowned psychiatrist Dr. Mark Golston talks about the habits that happy couples have and, by the way, if you decide to adopt them, don't ignore habit number 4!
No matter what state your relationship is in, you'll still be interested to read about the habits Dr. Golston believes are important to ensure that the magic of love between you and your significant other never ends.
1. Try to get to bed at the same time every day.
Think back to the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn't wait to be in bed together and finally make love.Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times.They go to bed at the same time, even if one of the partners then quietly gets up to do something without disturbing the sleep of their loved one.
2. Develop common interests
After the initial fire of passion has died down to a steady flame of love, many couples find that they don't have much in common after all. However, don't underestimate the importance of having things you can do (and enjoy) together. And even if you don't have many common interests, you can still find something you both enjoy (if you want to be a happy couple). And don't forget about your own interests and hobbies. – this way you will not only become more interesting to your partner, but you will also appear less dependent on him.
3. If you go somewhere together, hold hands or walk next to each other.
When a happy couple goes somewhere, it is not the case that one of the partners walks behind the other or runs ahead - no, they walk holding hands, or at least next to each other. They know that the desire to be close to each other is much more important than the desire to get somewhere first.
4. Make trust your normal "mode"
If (or rather, when) you quarrel or argue, know that happy couples are happy because they are willing to trust and forgive each other instead of cultivating mistrust and anger.
5. Try to think more about what your partner does right and less about what he or she does wrong.
If you look for only the faults in your partner, believe me, you will find them in abundance. But you will also find the good in him. It all depends on what exactly you are looking for. Happy couples have a positive outlook.
6. Hug each other when you meet in the evening after work
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (love), “bad touch” (abuse) and “no touch” (neglect). And when you greet or say goodbye to your “other half” with a hug, you are literally immersed in “good touch” - and they, in turn, help us to endure any adversity.
7. Say “I love you” and “Have a nice day” to each other every morning.
This is a great way to get charged up in the morning. with a good charge tolerance and good mood, with which you can go fight traffic jams, long lines, and other unpleasant phenomena.
8. Say goodnight to each other every night, no matter how sincerely you mean it.
It tells your partner that no matter how upset you are with him or her, you still care about your relationship and want to continue it. It tells you that what is going on between you is much bigger and more important than one unpleasant incident.
9. Don't forget to ask each other how you are doing
Don't forget to call your partner at home or work from time to time to see how their day is going. This is a great way to know in advance what to expect from him or her when you meet in the evening. For example, if your partner's day was absolutely terrible, you can hardly expect him or her to be genuinely happy about your cloudless day.
10. Be happy to be seen together
Happy couples are not embarrassed to show themselves to people together, moreover, they enjoy being seen during any emotional contacts, be it a simple touch on the hand or shoulder, or a passionate kiss. And they do not try to shock others with this at all - they just want to show that they belong to each other and are happy with it.
The habits of happy couples are very different from those of unhappy ones. But what is a habit? It is a certain pattern of behavior that you perform automatically and the maintenance of which does not require any special effort from you. For any behavior to become a habit, it must be repeated for at least 21 days.– and if you adopt the behavior patterns described in this article, they will certainly make your personal relationships much healthier and happier. And remember – if you don’t succeed the first time – don’t despair. Just apologize to your partner, ask for forgiveness, and continue working on acquiring healthy habits.
If there were any key to happiness in love and ordinary life, and to success, it would certainly be part of it: in conversation with people, listen more than you speak, be more interested than you try to interest, and admire more than you admire.
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